I try really hard to respect other’s people’s opinions, I really do. I hold to the fact that people are entitle to their opinions, just as much as I am. Of course, like anyone else, I am passionate about my opinions, and sometimes have a hard time not slapping the proverbial bitch. But what I try to remember is that to become a better member of society, I have to be educated in not only my opinions, but those of others whose ideal might not match up or even clash with mine. I hate seeing the stupid fights people hold about topics that they not only have not researched but don’t even have the basic understanding of. Because of the anonymity of the internet, these fights are all over and I find them pointless and just aggravating. Yes, I admit it, I sometimes get offended about something that someone has posted on the internet, but I am not one to rush into a fight, especially with someone I do not know, and someone I will probably never meet. That is, until today.
Today, while looking though my Facebook feed, I came across a little something that made me not only disgusted and angered me, but left me flabbergasted and at the same time saddened that something like this is still continuing: the blog “Boycott American Women: WhyAmerican Men Should Boycott American Women”. Yes it is as bad as it sounds. An entire Blog where the author, BoycottAmericanWomen (no other information can be found) posts blurbs from men around the country, explaining how “American women are generally immature, selfish, extremely arrogant and self-centered, mentally unstable, irresponsible, and highly unchaste.” Some of my favorite blog posts: NYC man says American women are white trash (Richard from NYC says " It is because of American women that america is dying..." --Really, I thought America was in "dying" due to the Economic Crisis, the War Overseas, the Lack of Healthcare for many citizens, the Widening Class Gap among other things. But alas, I was wrong, I am merely an American Woman and American women are liberal idiots,please forgive me for my idiocy) American women will divorce you and sue you for everything, Frank speaks about how nasty American women are ("I was watching a tv show recently and this bitter angry white woman was trashing not one but every white man alive, she said some very harsh comments calling these men wimps, losers, whatever."--Because television is the basis of reality). Albert says American women hate being wives and mothers (Albert says that "They [American Women] feel a sense of entitlement to just about everything, and only demand equality at the top never at the bottom. I still don’t see any of them demanding to be drafted."--I don't think women are demanding men to drafted, eh there Albert?), and Paul with a Chinese Wife. Good Job!.Seriously I could not make any of these up, even if I tried.
While it would be fun explain the fact that the United States is not on the Top Ten of the Highest Divorce Rates in the World (US is 14 according to The Economist’s: World in Figures [2011 Edition]), or discuss the trials and continued struggles of women’s equality in the United States (In 2009 the average annual worker's pay for men was $47,127, while for women is was $36,278, a difference of over $10,000[Income, Poverty, and Health Insurance Coverage in the United States: 2009]), or teach the history of the Women’s sexual revolution (up until 1952, the American Psychiatric Association diagnosed the female sex drive as Hysteria) , or comment on the redundancy of “…selfish, extremely arrogant and self-centered,” or argue about a very long list of other things I find completely offensive about this blog, I do not think it would do much. I like to be an optimist and think that this was started a coping mechanism for a bad experience, a case of hopelessness (hey we all need some method of decompression, even if in the inadvisable blog form) but the fact that BoycottAmericanWomen has been posting for over a year, makes me think otherwise. I know I shouldn't care about a single blog spouting disgusting overgeneralizations but for me it goes beyond all that.
I guess I'm taking more offence to this because yes, I am a person of female persuasion from the country of America. And I concede that there are women who are like the women described (I do not, however, think that they are the majority in America by any standards). But it's not only the completely ridiculous generalizations and overstatements BoycottAmericanWomen and the others he posts about are saying, but the attitude he and his followers have. Completely disregarding a group of people, whether that is American Women, People of Color, Followers of Islam or anything else, is the basis of bigotry and hatred and it needs to stop. Yes, I did just compare the statements and opinions I found in “Boycott American Women” to racism and Islam-phobia. It’s the idea that because you can have a label put on you, a label you have little to no control over, suddenly you are worthless and are a fair target for hatred and conflict. You are the problem, the one that needs to be changed to fit the whims of those judging you. These people have obviously had some bad experiences with some American women, and I am sorry for that, but the fact that they then choose to group all American Women into negative stereotypes is inexcusable. The same is happening with the followers of Islam after the tragedy of 9/11. Out of the tragic and monstrous actions of a small group of people, much of America has decided to demonize a whole culture and religion, targeting them as the enemy, as those who deserve our fear and retribution rather than those who are truly responsible. It is small-minded and hateful and leads to more conflict. This attitude ‘the sins of few taint the many’ has to put to an end. Jumping to conclusions, overgeneralization and simple close-mindedness, these are the causes of hate-crimes and disgusting prejudices and people need to recognize and question these ideas and question those who put them out there. Unfortunately, I recognize that there are some people who will refuse to do just that and, personally, that is what angers me most; not the rude and hatful comments, or the attack on a whole group of people for the actions of a few of them but the fact that the people who write these terrible things don’t seem acknowledge the fact that they might be wrong. Yes, BoycottAmericanWomen, does concede slightly with a “most American Women” but he doesn’t give much else. (Well, that and the Facts and conclusions ladies! post. Citing sources? Not needed for these facts and conclusions [all three of them!]).
The Blog is completely ridiculous and, once that pesky wish to slap the proverbial bitch subsides, I realize that “Boycott American Women” is nothing more than a group of petty people, wrapped up in their own unfortunate experiences and trying to find a scapegoat for that. But their attitude of small-mindedness and stereotyping is rampant in our society and we need to stop it. We need to educate ourselves and each other and keep an open mind.